How to deal with heartbreak gracefully

It's important to conduct oneself with dignity when going through an emotional rollercoaster

We have all gone through the heartwrenching experience of misery and emotional void that a heartbreak causes at least once in our lifetime. The aftermath and emotional complications when we're in such a vulnerable state are undoubtedly painful. But, being graceful and not reacting impulsively while dealing with disappointments, especially a heartbreak, will truly reflect your dignity and elegance in the long run. It's always tough to endure pain in a graceful manner. But, in this day and age, it's important to take the mature route.
Here are a few ways to be more mindful.

Don't be hasty: When we feel humiliated and unwanted, we have to walk away. It's not that we would not suffer. We will feel the pain, just like any other person once in love; we may even still be madly in love with our former partner and forgive them. But when you say goodbye, be mindful before doing it, as it usually is forever.

Know your worth: It's always wise to remember that our self-respect and dignity is more valuable than the desire to be loved back unconditionally. Reprehensible behaviour, humiliation or indecisiveness are not marks of a healthy relationship and should not be overlooked for too long. Love is unconditional, no doubt, but respect for someone, once lost, takes a long time to be won back. I know many stick around a relationship or marriage fearing the sadness and pain that follow a split. But the truth is that if your partner doesn't value you in the early days, you can prepare to be undervalued for the rest of your life.

Aim for grace under pressure: Try to carry yourself with dignity and grace while you manage your grief. The emotional void can be excruciating at times for sure. But at the end of the day, you know that your self-respect trumps all else.
It is difficult to practise grace under pressure. But, truth be told, sophistication is exuded through behaviour and actions, especially when things don't go your way. Articulate your hurt in private, and only share your feelings with people you can trust. Be careful not to make it a topic of discussion socially. Gracefulness under pressure is hard to achieve. But once you master it, true elegance will be visible for all to see.
In my next column, I will touch upon etiquette in the context of relationships and marriage. Till then, #beextraordinary.
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