What do you do when a friend owes you money and won’t return?

suneeti@khaleejtimes.com Filed on June 9, 2021

It started with a desperate call for help, for a few thousands, but over the years Malini’s bank account turned into an overdraft account of sorts for her sister, who didn’t think twice before sending out an SOS for financial help. “She returned money initially but for last four years, nothing has made its way back to me. I feel enraged but she is the only sibling I have and I do not want money to ruin our relation. It’s not that I am a millionaire or something and all the lending doesn’t affect my finances. I am unable to save anything for myself and it has started bothering me now,” she says.

Malini has been curt in suggesting she will no longer support any requests, but she often worries if she will ever get the money back. “People tell me to forget about it and release it as a gift. The whole experience is making me so bitter that the other day when an office colleague approached me for some financial help, I simply turned him away without really knowing the reason for his request.”

Lending money to family and friends can be a gesture of goodwill when someone you know is in a tight spot financially. But many a time, such loans have to be written off for the sake of friendship or relation. In a few cases, it even presages the end of relationships. In the UAE, a court recently dismissed a lawsuit filed by a young man demanding Dh555,000 that he said he had loaned to a friend.

Come to think of it, lending or borrowing money informally comes with its own set of challenges and sticky issues that are hardly confronted by the two parties. Should you, as a borrower, commit to a timeline for repayment? Should you, as a lender, charge any interest? Who should broach such subjects that are awkward to begin with but are essential if you are to maintain transparency and trust in such dealings?

While there are no relevant studies from the region to suggest how big or small this industry is, surveys done in the West do shed some light on the general practices that take place in any society. A 2019 survey by LendingTree, a US-based online loan marketplace, noted that 24 per cent of people who lent money to someone they knew said they regretted doing so. A few other surveys conducted in the US in 2018-19 noted the informal lending industry could be well over $180 billion.

Whether in the US, the UAE or elsewhere in the world, loans to family and friends have increased during the pandemic considering the financial shocks societies had to suffer during the last couple of months. Lack of emergency funds, unforeseen redundancies, pay cuts jolted household finances of many. So, what do you do when someone comes knocking at your door for help? First, calibrate your own finances and loan only the amount you would be okay to lose (remember to hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst). Financial planners suggest, if a big amount is being loaned, it is important to document it along with the terms and repayment period.

“First, people who are giving the loan should be mindful that it is not legal to charge interest in the UAE. Interest can only be charged by financial firms and not individual lenders. Second, it is always good to have a paper trail. Document the conversations in email trails, always bank transfer the money or give a cheque rather than cash. These things will help in case things go bad and you end up in court to claim your money,” says Barney Almazar, a legal adviser and director of corporate-commercial department of Gulf Law.

If loaning to an acquaintance, it is good to have a copy of their passport and Emirates ID, suggests Barney. “I understand it can be a difficult conversation to have, but this is the only way to protect your interest should you end up in courts seeking legal help in recovering your money.”

suneeti@khaleejtimes.com

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Suneeti Ahuja Kohli

Suneeti Ahuja-Kohli has been in Dubai long enough to call it her spiritual home. She loves to travel but plans to settle down in Koi Samui, Thailand eventually to spend her sunset years by the sea. For now, she writes frequently on personal finance, retirement planning, business news and features, health and almost anything assigned by her editor. Her sojourns can be followed on instagram (suneetiahujakohli), news and views on Twitter @suneetiahuja, and for the rest, there’s a Facebook account.





 
 
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