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When matters of the heart weigh you down

There are plans and there are emergency plans. Our response during or after sad personal incidents in our lives could make a big difference to the people we eventually become. I have always tried to imagine such moments of distress and how hard it is for people to deal with the loss.
When the person you love decides to leave you and their star disappears from your sky and travels away to another realm, and your eyes can no longer see them, you wonder what to do and how to move on.
Should I travel away from the memories, leaving them and the nice moments I spent with them behind? Or should I stay challenging them and myself and obstructing their path and their favorite places which I grew to love and memorise their details by heart.
Perhaps I should abandon those people and bury myself in piles of papers and pens, writing and hoping to forget. But time alone cannot help me forget. I doubt writing can help anyone forget. Maybe I should start looking for a new star - but it could make matters only worse.
On second thoughts, I don't think any of these solutions work. I realise these are not matters that are technical; practical solutions do not work. I am dealing with feelings and emotions here. I dread the moment of letting go when the day comes, so I would rather forget the idea completely.
- The writer is an architect based in Abu Dhabi