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Do not get stuck in the past

Many of us are in the habit of eulogising our past to a great extent. So, is nostalgia a good thing? I'd say it is a wonderful thing if handled well and conscientiously, for it helps people connect positively with their past; makes them feel well rooted.
If you are in the habit of taking a trip down memory lane, you are among a large multitude of people who believe that's the best way to spend leisure hours. However, the benefits of that exercise lie in one's ability to channelise the train of thoughts into beams of positivity that alleviate the current state of mind. Never think that the past was the golden era of your life and all is lost in the recesses of time.
Parents who are in the habit of eulogising their own past to deal with the issues their children face, are neither helping themselves nor their children. Times have changed and it is important for parents to understand that. It's not a good idea to compare the past with the present. Clinging to the past is also not a good trait. Glimpses from the past should teach us valuable lessons. We must draw from our rich repository of nostalgic memories to reflect on our strengths and weaknesses and chalk out our future course of action. This will definitely help us be in better control of the present and steer us in the right direction for the future. In short, the past should help us improve.
So, indulge in moments of nostalgia, narrate instances from your past to others and use those memories to shape a glorious present and future.
-Sheeba Jojo, Dubai