5 ways to know if the risk you are taking is worth it

Dan Gilbert says in Stumbling on Happiness, there's no way to predict how you will feel in the future.

By Marcia Reynolds

Published: Mon 7 Jan 2019, 6:00 PM

Last updated: Mon 7 Jan 2019, 8:52 PM

You take risks regularly, from backing your car into the street to trying a new restaurant. You only hesitate when you feel something important is at stake. Whether you love adventure or you always focus on what could go wrong, guidelines can help you objectively assess the value of taking risks.
I've had many coaching conversations start with, "I need to make a decision." Yet after describing their options, it's clear my clients want to take a risk but fear or guilt is stopping them from acting. I often ask, "A year from now, what will you most regret not doing?" They always know the answer. The coaching then focuses on the consequences of making the changes they desire.
I am not advocating for you to take risks; some risks aren't worth the consequences. And if you are considering a decision that will change your life, you need to flesh out a vision of the job, relationship, or lifestyle you want to create and a plan for getting there before you leap.
Dan Gilbert says in Stumbling on Happiness, there's no way to predict how you will feel in the future. You can look at what value you will get from taking the risk and then weigh that against the value of not doing it. There's no guarantee you will feel happier but you will be clearer about what you might gain.
Other risks are based on relieving present discomfort. Although you feel frustrated, resentful, or bored, you shouldn't take a risk just because you don't like what you have now. You need to be clear on what you want instead so you know the risk will move you forward.
Here are some guidelines to help you determine if your risk is worth taking:
Use a sounding board: Your brain wants to keep you within your personal safety zone, which differs for each situation depending on past experiences and your taste for challenge. It is better to talk through options with someone who will not be affected by your choice. Also, don't choose someone who likes to tell others what they should do (especially family). As you explain the pros and cons of risking, notice how you feel. Do your reasons make you feel proud or satisfied? Your emotions may indicate how important taking the risk is to you. Try the Coin Trick. Assign your options to heads or tails. Flip the coin. The moment you see the result, are you disappointed or relieved? The trick might help you uncover what you really want to do.
Catch your 'shoulds': It's hard to make a decision when you are attached to other people's opinions. What do you think they will say if you take the risk? Write these statements down to identify your fears of their judgements and your guilt about disappointing others. Recognition of your should-based actions can also free you from black-and-white, stay or go, decisions.
Know your why: Be mindful of being driven by needs for recognition or acceptance. When you assess the value of your risk, what type of satisfaction do you gain? What outcome will you be most proud of over time? What would you do if you had no people to take care of or please? Twenty years from now, what would you love to tell people about the risk you took? For life-changing risks, consider the strengths you love to exercise.
Ask your heart and gut: Although the science of intuition is debatable, you may get insights from this exercise. After you list out the pros and cons, open your heart by looking at pictures that make you smile. Once you feel joy or gratitude, ask your heart if the risk feels right. Review your pros and cons from this perspective. Then open your gut by recalling a time in your life when you spoke up or acted in spite of your fear. Feel your courage pulse in your gut. Then ask your gut what to do.
Be honest about what could go wrong: Don't ignore hazards. When you look at possible problems, how would you handle them? When I left my last job to start my business, I knew if I failed, I would find another job. Fear can blind you to your options once you take a risk. Consider bad outcomes, determine the likelihood they will happen, and what you would do next.
If you decide the risk is worth taking, commit to taking a few steps, even if the steps are small. You might read a book, have a conversation with someone about the direction you want to take, or sign up for a class on starting a business. Do something to keep moving. Then, if things don't go as you hoped for, allow for self-correction. Learn along the way.
No matter what you decide, you will encounter difficulties. You will question your choices. You may even find your choice was just a step to the next as you create many chapters in your life.
Which risks will you regret NOT taking a year from now? Decide what risks are worth taking and take the first step today.
-Psychology Today
Marcia Reynolds is the President of Covisioning, a leadership development firm

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