Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength
Published: Fri 18 Jan 2019, 8:20 AM
Last updated: Fri 18 Jan 2019, 10:23 AM
Imagine you're due to give a big speech or presentation, but you're petrified of public speaking. Your speech is due in two weeks and you spend so much time fearing the concept of standing in front of people that you don't direct your attention to the task at handwriting and practising the actual speech. You spend sleepless nights being perturbed and this taxes you, slashing your confidence. Worrying is worrisome: it causes stress and we all know stress can harm.
Distress or anxiety drains psychological energy occupying space and time in the brain that could be better used for something else. Most of our worries or troubles are baselessly magnified, and most of them will certainly not happen.
We all worry. We worry about work, about school, about money, about relationships, about family, about future, about life in general. Worry are monsters we build in our own mind. Worrying comes when we think of negative future possibilities. It's that simple - we spend time and energy thinking about negative things that could happen. Whether to worry or not is a tricky act. Worrying too much definitely consumes you, making you feel tired and anxious. On the flipside, you may feel if you do not worry enough you may not take the necessary steps to avoid the issue. It's important to acknowledge that some worries are genuine, but many are not. Worrying about the uncontrollable issues will do nothing but paralyse you. Worrying neither makes things better nor helps a bit. It's sane to keep your concentration on what you can do or change. We work very hard in my life worrying about the future, that we forget to live in the present moment to find solace or happiness in everything we do. Joy is often about living in the moment, being absorbed in what you're doing, not brooding on the past or guessing your future.
Popular song in the Lion King movie $$$Hakuna Matata$$$ -a Swahili phrase meaning "no worries." It's similar to saying "no problem" or "don't worry, be happy". It is just training your mind to relax, immune to fretting. Or simply to put in the famous philosophy "All is well". While humming this tune may not vanquish all fear and anxiety, this particular phrase reminds us to stop the "what-if thinking" and ground ourselves in the present.
Learn to look at life with an optimistic lens. A positive thought is contagious and will release the feel-good endorphins into your body. After the work hours are over, just take a happiness break. Do something you like: exercise, swim, rehydrate, have a meal, socialise, dream or just relax. Add space to your life, this is very self-liberating and self-empowering. The key to making room in your life is to find the time, energy and motivation to let go of the small stuff. It's not worth your effort to agonise over trivial matters. Laugh out loud, smile you don't owe all the problems in the world. Laughter helps smooth out rough edges, calm overwrought emotions and deliver a sense of peace, calm and contentedness.
Slow down your pace and refresh yourself. Do whatever you are doing right now but do it slower, emphasise and enjoy. Move, talk, eat or ride your bicycle slower. By doing so you'll become more aware of what is happening all around you right now. Be so much engrossed into the present moment breathing, living to the fullest. Focus on something positive, eventually you'll start seeing affirmative things and steering your life in that direction. Life is about being passionate and living out your dreams, no matter what you have to go through to get there.
Start dedicating yourself to the millimeters of progress.
Love yourself, love your day, love your life!
So I wish you $$$Hakuna Matata$$$, today and always.
- Leo Buscaglia, Dubai.