This is in response to the editorial ‘Mind your manners’ (KT, February 14). Children learn about manners and strong character watching by emulating their parents, grandparents and other adults that they come in contact in their daily lives. They learn various things by observing, hearing and over-hearing. It is the foremost duty of parents to inculcate good habits and manners by leading from the front.
Only preaching them about respect for others, compassion, integrity, truth and politeness will have less impact on the. Parents have to put these values into practise first and act upon them. Children consider their parents as role models. Hence parents should uphold the values and motivate them to walk on the right path.
There are numerous benefits when parents inculcate manners in their children by practicing model behaviour in the initial stage — a little prodding about good behaviour is essential. After a while, even reminders are not needed as children taught good manners at young age rarely misbehave. Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If one has that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what work you do and which sect.
A person cannot become ‘well-mannered’ overnight. It is a lifelong education. The onus is on parents to catch the children young to teach good manners as they will open doors that best education cannot. As the editorial said, ‘A close family bonding plays a pivotal role in moulding children in a better way’.
Jayashree Kulkarni, Abu Dhabi