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That's precisely what my colleagues and I asked a group of college students in a recent study

Here's a question for you: If you were told that you were going to have to move away from your current town in a mere 30 days, how would you most like to spend your remaining time?
That's precisely what my colleagues and I asked a group of college students in a recent study. We were curious what their priorities would look like as they imagined their time in their college town drawing to a close.
We asked them to think about the sorts of things they would most want to do if they really did have only 30 days left. Who would they spend their time with? What would they do? They checked in with us weekly, reporting on their actions and feelings. Compared to a neutral control group, those living the month like it was their last showed a significant increase in happiness over the course of a month and also at a six-week follow-up.
Interestingly, this effect was driven by fulfillment of the core psychological needs - autonomy, competence, and interpersonal relatedness - that are related to well-being. As one student put it, "I was productive, but didn't spend too much time doing work without spending time with friends." Perhaps these students felt like more active agents in their daily decision-making, as time's scarcity helped to clarify their priorities. Maybe they were choosing activities they felt skilled at, while also allowing themselves to socialise with meaningful others. Maybe they were more able to suppress the "shoulds" that so often govern daily decisions, while focusing instead on what makes life rich and rewarding.
It's important to note that all of our participants were freshmen and sophomores in college, so their condensed timelines were purely imaginary. They actually still had a relative abundance of time left. Years, in fact. Nevertheless, they were able to adopt this perspective and use it as a catalyst for positive change. How can you put this research to work? Easy. Prioritise the things that came to mind when answering the question I posed above. What would you most like to do if you had to move soon? (I'm not talking about stressful or unpleasant things, like putting your house on the market and starting to pack! Forget all of that.) Take note of the people you'd most like to spend time with. Identify the restaurants, museums, or natural areas that you'd like to visit. These may not be the things you normally focus on. Perhaps you're too busy. Perhaps you lack the motivation. In the normal hustle-bustle of daily life, these may well be the subtleties that you fail to notice and appreciate. Nothing will highlight their importance quite like imagining their absence.
Other research shows that, when time truly is coming to an end, emotionally rewarding and meaningful people and places naturally rise to the top of our priority lists. Our new study demonstrates that this mindset can be created far in advance of an actual ending to help us see our priorities a little more clearly.
Jaime Kurtz is an associate professor of psychology at James Madison University in Virginia. Her research focuses on strategies for savouring and well-being.
-Psychology Today